Two Career Marriage, ways it can work

The days of Ward and June Cleaver are over. Ward goes to work, and June stays home cooking, cleaning, and looking after the kids. In today's fast paced world, often both spouses are working. Here are 4 ways that your marriage can work when both spouses have great jobs.

1. Both partners in the marriage are equal and share responsibilities equally. Clearly the careers come first for each. Often household tasks are done (or put off) jointly. One caution with this type of equal sharing of responsibility is that each partner cannot allow their competitive nature from work slip into their personal, home life.

2. One partner in the marriage takes on a lesser, subordinate position in the marriage. This often happens when someone marries his/her boss. The work relationship carries over into the home life. One problem here is that if the roles in the relationship can cause stress in the marriage or relationship.

3. The marriage partners' personal emotions supersede their career drives. The marriage partners often sacrifice business opportunities to spend more time with their spouse. Of course one drawback here might be that one or both of the marriage partners may end up using their marriage as an excuse for their not succeeding at work.

4. The 4th (and perhaps best) way to achieve a solid and healthy balance between work and marriage is for the spouses to be ultra-aware of their partner's needs and constantly move toward each other. The devoted partners support each other, and celebrate each other by being devoted to their partner's career and personal happiness.

Any of these four arrangements can work, though they are not for everyone. Both marriage partners must be satisfied with the relationship for it to work out. The partners must make personal adjustments and jointly discuss with their husband or wife to make the relationship work!

Tell me how do you make your marriage work when both spouses are working on their careers?